Attaining that all-important balance between expectation and reality is essential when approaching milestone training. While it’s important to maintain a positive attitude, putting too much pressure on your child will only have negative effects. Keeping things light-hearted will go a long way, even when it seems like the process is never-ending!
While some parents find potty training a breeze, others will struggle, and things will certainly not go as planned at least some of the time. As parents, we should concentrate on preparing both ourselves and our toddlers for the process. That way, we will be fully emotionally equipped in keeping our frustration or disappointment to a minimum if things go wrong.
This avoids the impact of our negative mood on our child’s mentality and minimises the risk of setting the process back. Potty training isn’t always easy and setting realistic standards for both yourself and your child will make things easier.
One reason so many of us have unrealistic expectations is that there is plenty of media out there claiming to “potty train your child in 3 days!” and similar. The reality is that potty training is a process and we must be patient. It’s not always easy but nothing goes up in a straight line. The more relaxed your attitude, the easier it will be for adult and child.
This is also the reason why we must avoid setting ourselves strict guidelines for the way that we are going to train. You can still prepare the essentials whilst trying to go with the natural flow (no pun intended) and learning the signals that your child gives because all milestone training is a very individual process.
For example, you may be adamant that you wish to train your child during the holidays when you are around more to help. While this might make things easier from the practical adult perspective, waiting until your child is ready is the singular most important part of potty training. Convenience should take a back seat to readiness every time.
Now let’s look a little more closely at preparing the essentials. Creating a structure and (loose) routine allows us to maintain an element of consistency to support our toddler’s growing independence and a successful process. This might mean always reading their favourite potty training book when it comes to using the Family Seat or using the Family Seat door hanger to indicate their need to go.
Of course, all the advice in the world isn’t going to stop us feeling stressed and frustrated at some point during the process. Take a deep breath and remember that this is a developmental milestone and your toddler will be ready to master it – the process won’t go on forever!
Also remind yourself that you cannot control the whole process. It’s up to your child to become independent and learn how to recognise and control their urges in their own time. It can also help to remember the golden rules – praise where praise is due and don’t get angry if your child has an accident. It’s a learning curve for all of us.
The Family Seat is built with an ergonomic, solid construction resulting in a strong, stable seat to give your child confidence during the potty-training process. For advice on any aspect of potty training and for any help purchasing a Family Seat, email our team at firstname.lastname@example.org .
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