The Stigma of the Stay at Home Parent

Even in 2019, parents – and mums especially - struggle with a certain level of prejudice. Whether you choose to be a stay at home parent or a working mum, there is a whole lot of judgement about what should be a personal parenting decision.

A chart posted on Facebook late last year showed what the Metro called a “dubiously idyllic” view of parenthood for stay at home mums where dinner is always made from scratch and is “nutritious and delicious”.

In contrast, working mums are depicted as those who cook microwaved dinners for their families all week then spend the weekends cleaning the house and shopping.

Stop the Mum Shaming

The chart has been widely condemned with one mum saying that it’s “grossly oversimplified”. One working mum wrote that “You have shamed all working mothers, even those who might not have a choice… we are all mothers and we should stop shaming each other.”

This picks up on a crucial point regarding the stay at home vs. working parent argument. Everyone’s decision is their own and there should be no time or effort spent in shaming one another. Instead, it is our responsibility as parents to bring each other up and celebrate individual choices.

Recent examples of both Amy Schumer and Chrissy Teigen being mum shamed also show that there is still a misconception whereby mums are blamed for parenting decisions that have been made by both father and mother. 

A Flexible Working Culture

It is so important for any parent or parenting company to speak up and use their platform to break down such stigma and stereotypes. Everyone’s situation is different, and every family should be proud of how they choose to structure their working and home lives.

We are lucky enough to be living in a time where remote, freelance and part-time work is par for the course. This also means there are many more options available for those parents who wish to strike a balance between their parenting role and career progression.

Equally, we should celebrate those parents who choose to stay at home full time with their children because that is their own personal choice and what is right for them. Neither option has to have negative connotations, whether it be that working mums are choosing their careers over their children or stay at home mums are lazy and will end up with spoilt children.

It’s all about what makes sense for the individual and their family. We also have to consider the financial impact of having children and that the high cost of daycare often impacts a parent’s decision to stay at home.

Would you like an Additional Income Stream?

We are fully aware that all parents feel guilty about their choices at one point or another – there’s a reason the term “mum guilt” has become a part of everyday vocabulary. This ties into one key concern of many stay at home parents – that they are not financially contributing to their household. This can make them feel inadequate and raise concerns about the pressure on their marriage.

In an extended celebration of stay at home and working parents, we are pleased to be extending an opportunity to mums of toddlers who are interested in making a bit of extra money regardless of circumstances.

We would like to offer you the chance to sell the Family Seat onto your fellow parent friends, whether it be the mums at nursery, those in your NCT group or your oldest friends who have all had children at around the same time. This is a great and stress-free way to share a very useful product and help fellow parents achieve their milestones whilst earning a bit of extra pocket money.

The Family Seat can be used for years, which means you can also offer it to second-, third- or fourth-time parents who are looking for an effective way to potty train using an in-built rewards system including a Potty Training chart and door hanger that can be personalised.

Interested in the opportunity to sell our products from the comfort of your home to your friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances? Please send an email to info@familyseat.com to obtain details and information on how to be an at-home seller, along with the buying and selling costs providing you with a return on every seat you sell.

You can also contact our team for advice on any aspect of potty training, creating a toilet training plan and/or purchasing a Family Seat.

The Family Seat Progress Chart and Door Hanger are a great way to set up a rewards-based system for potty training. Every Family Seat comes complete with these potty-training essentials as well as a 10-Year Guarantee.

Family Seat supports the children’s communication charity I CAN, who are experts in helping children to develop the language, speech and communication skills that they need to thrive in our 21st-century world. We donate 50p to I CAN on each and every seat purchased through the official Family Seat website.

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