Father’s Day is on the horizon which means a lovely excuse to spoil dad rotten and spend some quality family time. But the approach of this day led us to thinking about one lesser-celebrated entity – the stay at home dad (or SAHD as social media will have it).
There is so much debate about the role of stay-at-home mums and the impact that having a parent at home more has on both the child and adult. But we still feel as if SAHDs are not given the same attention.
When it comes to milestones, it’s only natural that the parent who spends the majority of the time at home and/or with the child will be the one to take on the bulk of duties. When it comes to potty training, familiarity and consistency are key which is why the stay-at-home parent will again be the one that oversees the process for the majority of the time.
For many years, the number of SAHDs has been on the rise. Although the numbers hit a three-year low in 2017, it’s still a choice that many men choose to make due to both a desire to spend more time with children and for financial reasons if their partner is the higher earner. There are a few simple ways that dads can make this choice an effective and rewarding one. These tips will also help to support your toddler in their milestone learning.
Whether you are a full-time SAHD or working from home at the same time, it’s essential to have a routine (as far as possible when there are children involved!). This sense of structure will support both your own productivity and your child’s milestone learning, with set meal times, nap times and snack times that will in turn help to give your child a potty-training routine based around such times.
Trust in yourself and create a routine that suits both yourself and the children best. It’s human nature for both adult and child to function better when there is a solid framework.
One of the most difficult parts of being a SAHD is fighting the stigma. Times are changing, and traditional gender roles are changing with them but many SAHDs still encounter a lack of respect, understanding or disdain from people who expect the mothers to be the ones that stay home. It’s true what they say that old views die hard.
Thankfully this is the exception rather than the norm but just like anything else in life, preparation is key and knowing that you may come up against such stereotypes and ignorance will mean that you can deal with it better.
Ignore the noise and tune into your own child and their needs and desires so that you can enjoy the process instead of becoming consumed with worry or depression about other people’s opinions. Get out there, meet new people and continue to mingle at the park, library, swimming pool and toddler groups. It’s good for your kids and it’s important for you too.
When you’re potty training, always pack at least one change of clothes, plenty of wipes and hand gel in your bag to account for any accidents and prepare for using the loo outside the home.
Many stay-at-home parents struggle with insecurity and a loss of identity which makes it even more important to keep socialising and connect with other adults on a day-to-day basis. It’s essential to have a calm, relaxed environment to support milestone and potty training, and this social interaction and time outside the home will encourage a sense of contentment.
The Family Seat is built with an ergonomic, solid construction resulting in a strong, stable seat to give your child confidence during the potty-training process. For advice on any aspect of potty training and for any help purchasing a Family Seat, email our team at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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