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How to Draw the Line Between Relaxed Potty Training and Making Sure Children Know It’s Not a Game

Being in a position of authority comes more easily to some of us than others but parenting is all about setting boundaries and making sure your child recognises when no means no.

Milestones are a key area where discipline skills come to the fore, as this is a prime opportunity for children to test both our patience and our limits. It’s all part of the learning process as little ones will naturally try to get away with as much as they can but if you want to master milestones, you’ll need to rein it in.

So, how can you draw the line between keeping things relaxed and non-pressurised in potty training but making sure children know it’s not a game?

  1. Set up a playful aspect 

If you work hard to keep the “fun” aspect of potty training safely within an organised context, this will set automatic boundaries that children will be happy to adhere to. The Family Seat potty training chart and door hanger are perfect examples of organised fun. Both of these potty training accessories come free of charge with every seat along with a downloadable success certificate that you can show your child to help boost their motivation. Your child can fill in their name on then hanger and add their picture to the potty training wall chart. This is ideal for engaging little ones with the process in an entertaining, approachable way and engaging the “fun” aspect without going over the top.

  1. Engage older siblings

Any parents of two children or more will know just how much the little ones look up to their older sibling. You can use this to your advantage during potty training by asking older brothers or sisters to set a good example when it comes to using the toilet. Once your toddler sees that their sibling is using the toilet in a sensible way, flushing, washing their hands and drying them off without any fuss or bother, they will want to follow suit. It’s all about encouraging good behaviour by example.

  1. Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page

Every child will try to test the boundaries and sometimes it can be OK to let them do so. That might mean an extra bit of cake or staying up half an hour late to watch TV after a well-behaved day at nursery. That being said, you and your partner must agree when it’s time to use a firm “no” and carry this through into milestone training. Otherwise, there is plenty of scope for your child to get away with too much and make things into a game.

  1. Acknowledge the small steps

Part of keeping things on an even keel with milestone training is praising your toddler when praise is due. This might mean any of the markers on the Family Seat chart, such when they ask to use the toilet or when they flush and then wash their hands properly. By praising your toddler, he or she will recognise that they are rewarded for good behaviour and they will want to do it again.


The Family Seat is built with an ergonomic, solid construction resulting in a strong, stable seat to give your child confidence during the potty-training process. For advice on any aspect of potty training and for any help purchasing a Family Seat, email our team at Family Seat supports the children’s communication charity I CAN, who are experts in helping children to develop the language, speech and communication skills that they need to thrive in our 21st-century world.  We donate 50p to I CAN on each and every seat purchased through the official Family Seat website.


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